Do You Have a Nest?

Yeah, I get tired.

Sometimes, it feels like I am carrying the weight of the world.

Working to make a difference. Hoping to alter perspectives. Showing families that there is hope.

There IS Hope.

I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety in one form or another since I was 12. I’m 43.

When Leah was a toddler, there were days I got out of bed, just so she wouldn’t see me “setting the example” of staying in bed until 2 in the afternoon. (It didn’t save her from it.)

When the weather turns, we turn to bed. It’s one of the less awesome things I’ve passed on to my kids. We call it, “Becoming one with the mattress.”

“Hey, it’s mom. You okay? You getting out of bed before noon? I’m only asking because I’m struggling.”

Truth be told, it’s kind of nice to have a community of family members who get it. People who just check in when there’s a certain feeling in the air.

I’ve asked those around me to please not judge me when I spend a day in bed. You see, hearing, “Oh my God! You’re still in bed?” doesn’t really help. If you’ve never needed to stay in bed all day, just to get through a day, be grateful you don’t understand.

One day I sent this to Aaron:

Later that day, he had made me a nest.  <3

Special thanks to www.robot-hugs.com for nailing it, and also for giving me permission to use the above image. Special thanks to our friends at The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (Utah) who support human beings when they are feeling more than sad.

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About Rachel Coleman

The opinions and late night musings published on this blog are Rachel de Azevedo Coleman's alone, and are not ever intended to represent the opinions and sentiments of any organization or product that Rachel is, was, or will be associated with. Rachel Coleman is the creator and Emmy-nominated host of Signing Time!, the children's American Sign Language vocabulary building series. She is also the creator and host of Baby Signing Time, Rachel & the TreeSchoolers, and Rachel & Me. Rachel now serves as the Executive Director of the American Society for Deaf Children, a 501c3 nonprofit established in 1967 by parents of deaf children. ASDC is the American Sign Language organization for families who are raising deaf children. www.deafchildren.org Motivated by her child, Leah's deafness, Rachel has spent the last 18 years creating ASL products to help bridge the communication barrier between hearing and signing communities. In 2006 Rachel founded the Signing Time Foundation, a 501c3 non-profit dedicated to putting communication in the hands of all children of all abilities. In 2014, the Signing Time Foundation launched a 50-Lesson online ASL curriculum called "Sign It: ASL Made Easy" that is available free-of-charge to families with deaf or hard of hearing children ages 36 months and under. Apply at www.mydeafchild.org. For those who do not qualify to receive Sign It ASL for free, they can find it for purchase at very reasonable rates on www.SignItASL.com. Rachel and her husband, Aaron, live in Salt Lake City Utah. They are parents to Leah who was born profoundly deaf, and is now a senior in college at NTID/RIT in Rochester, NY. They are also parents to Lucy who has spina bifida and cerebral palsy, and recently graduated high school. In 2010 the Colemans were joyfully reunited with Rachel's daughter Laura. Rachel is proud to be Laura's birth mom. Laura was placed for adoption as an infant in 1992 when Rachel was 17 years-old.

5 thoughts on “Do You Have a Nest?

  1. Yep, nests are amazing things. I have passed the importance of nest time on to my boys as well. It’s also a free zone, they can share and say anything they need to in the nest and can’t be punished or taken out of the nest. I have learned it helps build a special bond within our family and helps me with anxiety so much and my kids….

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  2. I have a nest. I stay in bed a lot of days. I also have a “happy lamp” and take lots of vitamin D. It’s ok not to be ok, but we HAVE to talk about it! And if it’s more than a blanket fort can fix, PLEASE get help! 1-800-273-8255. There is someone to help 24/7. You are never alone.

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  3. I started by trying to find out more about “the signing time lady”, read your web site entries about your stories, but I think I needed to read this today. Thank you- for signing time and for nest awareness, too.

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